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Question: What’s the best thing to do with a parent who is violent to their spouse?

Answered: A long talk with promises made

They should promise to not be so violent.If it keeps getting out of hand then they should see a counselor and if it still is really bad then cops should get involved.

A long talk gets to the point without any mishaps.

You must show that you can trust the other parent with the promises. If they are broken then serious counseling.

Because then grudges can be let go of. If they just sit in jail they will still hate each other. And cause more tension in the house.

You don't want to throw them in jail or do anything really stupid like that. You should make sure they know how much it bothers you before you do anything that you would regret.

It's good to talk about stuff.

Promises aren't meant to be broken. I think a promise in writing would be good so the parents can go back and look at it so they remember what they promised and be determined not to be violent.

Violence never solved anything so talking about would make it better.

Dunno, I haven't ever been in this situation!

Bringing in people outside of the house could seem like a really big thing. This could make kids uneasy and upset. A long talk with the parent might make them rethink what they are doing, and knowing how their child feels can make a big difference. However, if the violence gets really out of control, others should step in.

All it takes is talking.

That is just the way of life.

If you talk, maybe with a pastor or friend, you could find out why they're violent.

Never is violence better -- it usually makes things worse.

Sending a parent to jail just causes the child to suffer and counseling hardly ever works.

I don't think they deserve jail or anything that serious.

The matter should be approached by all members of the family and resolved.