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Question: Should grandparents have a say in how their grandchildren are raised after a divorce?

Answered: Yes

They are interested in the well being of their grandchildren.

I'm not saying that they should have total control ... I just think that the grandparents might have a good suggestion or two on what to do ... but otherwise it should be completely the parents' decision ... it's their mess and they need to clean it up.

If they know them enough.

The parents proved they failed so the more skilled ones should have a go.

Grandparents can help.

Yes, because maybe neither parents are good enough, and the grandparents would be able to see that because they raised one of the kids themselves.

Yes because they might have the most money.

Just because.

They should have a say, because obviously ... who's gonna stop them from saying anything? But it's not up to the grandparents on how their grandchildren are gonna be raised.

Sure they can have their say, but that doesn't mean it's going to do any good.

They should, but not all the way. You have to let the parents at least do some of it.

Of course they should.

My grandparents are involved in everyday life so why not the welfare of their grandkids?

Definitely!!!! If the grandparents don't have a say in how the parents are raising their child, then the parents would just keep on raising the child very badly, like most parents do.

If both the parents are unsuitable to raise them, the grandparents would be the next best choice.

I'm sorry! But no they shouldn't. It's not THEIR child. How about the great-grandparents? The aunts? Uncles?

Grandparents have a lot more experience and life and give good opinion that will be best for the children. Also (at least for me) they are more loving and caring because they don't have much else to do. And also their grandkids are their family.

Because sometimes a parent needs help after going through a divorce.

Still a part of children's lives.

They are not directly involved in the divorce like the parents and children are,so they can give a pretty unbiased opinion about how to raise the child.

They know the kid too. I think anyone who knows the family personally should have a say.

They still should be involved with their grandchildren.

Sometimes if they are close to the kid they are part of the family too.

Sometimes a parent needs some extra help and if they are good with their parents, a little help won't hurt. If the grandparents know to to talk to them about it and not judge or tell them what to do, then having a say won't work out.

Grandparents are loving and are wise and can give good advice to parents feeling lost and often in the strain of divorce a parent can lose some of their good parenting skills.

I believe that the Grandparents should have a say because, if per chance they were raised with better morals than their children, then they could possibly bring their Grandchildren another view of their life.

They want what's best.

If the grandparents are involved in the children's lives as primary care givers they should have a say.

They're their grandkids.

Because everyone's opinion counts.

If the grandparents are around a lot and have the best intentions for their kids then yes, of course.

Possibly.

They should have a say regardless.

Sometimes it gets hard for parents to raise children on their own so they need advice.

Grandparents should have a say even if the parents aren't separated.

Yes, but to a certain extent. They should be able to voice their opinion, but it is ultimately up to the parents to decide. Unless the parents are harming their children in some way.

I say yes but I am in the middle on this one. Like if the mom and dad are drug dealers or something the grandparents should have a say-so but if the mom and dad don't want them to have a say-so and they are both mentally stable then, no, the grandparents shouldn't.

They are part of the kid's life too.

The father's parents might not get to see their grandkids if they live with the mother.

If a parent needs advice, then they should go to their own parents.

They are related.

Yes, because the single parent may need guidance and direction after a divorce.

They are family and have rights to help the children and families in a divorce.

To a certain extent.

Sometimes depending on how close they are.

They're our parents' parents and they should say what happens to us after a divorce.

Sometimes grandparents are the only option for the child to have custody over so the grandparents should have some say in custody.

They should have a say but not the final say. If the parents are careless and don't care about their kid, the grandparents should help with the decision because they are part of the family. Ultimately, the kid should have the final say within certain guidelines.

They, too, are an important figure in the childrens' life and how they are raised and what they are raised to believe.

A little. They know about parenting and marital issues and so therefore should be able to share their knowledge with the parents.

Yes and no [there should be a maybe option]. The grandparents should have a say but that should be counted as an opinion, not a force. The grandparents should not be taking care of the kids after a divorce unless the parents say to.

Grandparents may know the situation very well and look out for the children's needs as they are family.

They have more experience than their children (our parents).

Yeah, I mean, they can have a opinion about it, but it's not like the parents will listen to them.

And again, there should be a "depends on the situation" option. Some parents stick their noses in their children and grandchildren's business too much. But there are times when grandparents should give their wise advice when NEEDED. Some grandparents know what's best while some don't. So really this is a "depends on the situation" answer.

It depends. The grandparents should have a little bit of say.

They are thinking clear.

They also care about them.

Their family and they should have a vote.

Grandparents are wise.

I guess there is a line if both parents are taking care of the child and giving the child that love then no, but if the child is neglected and unloved I think the grandparents should step in.

We're all family.

Yes, because they are more wise in these matters.

Only if they're fitted.

I think they should put some ideas in but not control everything the parents do.

Yes because grandparents also have a genuine love towards their grandchildren.

They are just as important because it involves their close family, they can see the situation from a different point of view than those involved in the divorce.

Because the parents of the kids should know how they feel about this.

They should have a say but not a big one. Though grandparents have had experience and it is their grandchild they may not have the full story and they tend to side with their children.

Because sometimes it takes someone from the outside to put a different perspective on things.

They are basically backup guardians.

Their input is valuable, it's their family too.

Unless a parent has personal issues that make for an unsafe or unstable environment for the child, a divorce and post-divorce matters are primarily of the parents' dealing.

The family doesn't dissolve entirely because of a divorce.

Well, yes, usually.

Often the Grandparents of either side see things and tend to know what's best for the children.

Of course grandparents should have some say how to look after the child after the divorce because they love the kid just as much as each of the parents and want the best for their grandchild.

The mother/father needs help raising them after a divorce.

They don't want the divorce messing with the kid's inner thought about life and they are there to confort the kids. They would be the most responsible.

Yes, because grandparents are part of the family as well.